Boundaries, timing, and the quiet strength to face what was once too much
Me, having an overview over the Mountains in Austria.
Dear Reader,
In my work I sit with Life-stories that live deep in the body.
They arrive as tension, as numbness, as freeze, stress, overloaded nervous system or something deeply unsaid.
Sometimes it takes decades until a person feels ready to turn toward them.
This timing is never wrong - it is the body’s wisdom deciding when the ground is steady enough.
In a recent letter
from my father I read the words:
“If you want to stay in contact with me, then without red lines. Red lines do not exist between parents and children.”
It touched something deeply in me I had carried since childhood.
Never heard that so clear, but felt it vor many years.
A world where boundaries were never welcomed, where love seemed tied to conditions.
At 42, I sense a shift.
The capacity to face this fear.
To stay with the tension and feel what is true for me and my values.
To hold the grief of not having the father I longed for a
ll my life.
To zoom out, to breathe, to choose differently.
To take care of the little boy inside who wants nothing more than to be seen and accepted.
There is no blame here.
I understand.
I have compassion.
I can forgive.
And I feel clear: I need to stay in my truth.
With my father.
With everyone I meet.
To be treated kindly.
And yes, I ate lots of ice cream, pizza, and plenty of junk to arrive here.
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I hear a similar resonance in my clients.
The grief of recognizing things late.
The heaviness of time that feels lost.
Realizing how much has already passed.
Regret, questioning, anger about not being able to - YET.
The question: “Why only now?”
This week,
I sat with someone who grew up in a home shaped by unpredictability.
Doors slamming.
Voices raised without warning.
Screaming for hours.
Hiding in the closet.
A very uncertain childhood.
A nervous system, always alert still waiting for the next outburst - even decades later.
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These experiences
are not the same, yet they belong to the same fabric of being human.
What has been too much, too soon, remains within us until the moment we can meet it.
Like a tree that carries the mark of a wound, every storm, every year of growth.
The rings remain, but the trunk keeps expanding.
Always adding new layers, always reaching for light.
When there is enough capacity, we mature enough to grow around what has happened.
Breath returns.
Integration begins.
We are literally able to take this unseen part by the hand and walk together the path.
That is integration
That is healing
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This is the ground of my work.
To sit with what has been carried for years in silence.
To create a space where the unseen begins to surface - slowly and in its own rhythm.
To guide along the parts of us that once had to freeze, collapse, or disappear in order to survive.
To stay present until what once felt unbearable finds its way into breath, into movement, into rest.
Every body knows its timing.
Every story unfolds when there is enough capacity to hold it.
The work is to trust this precision, to honor it, and to give it space to happen.
To trust our bodies own intelligence.
Clients Quote: "This body is such a cool thing"
I couldn’t agree more.
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Here we meet whatever wants to be seen - sometimes through stillness, sometimes through movement, sometimes through voice and sound. Always in loving-presence.
October is already almost fully booked.
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