The edge we fear – and why it matters [5Min read]


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Theme of the Month: Wounding, Healing and Integration
This Week:
Touching the Edge – What We Avoid, and Why It Matters


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Dear Reader,

A few nights ago, I was lying on my mat in the dark.

Just after a conversation that left me a little raw – not in a dramatic way, just one of those moments where something touched a deeper layer I usually don’t let others see.


I felt the tightening in my chest.

The familiar ache behind my breastbone.

And the almost automatic urge to do something – move, breathe it away, open a podcast, think of dinner.


This time - I stayed.


I let my hand rest on my chest and said, silently, I’m here.

What rose up was an old sentence:

You’re too much.

You're too sensitive -

You always were.


I hadn’t heard that line in years. But my body still remembered the impact of hearing this judgment in my younger years - around 10.

I used to be terrified of these edges – the quiet places where old beliefs still echo.

As a kid, I learned fast how to avoid. I avoided being needy. Asked for what I want - I avoided asking for things I couldn’t prove I deserved - The inner pleaser became stronger - Fear of rejection armored as a protection shield to not get hurt - again.


Avoidance, back then, felt like wisdom.

Stay light. Stay safe. Stay lovable.


It took me years to realize that the things I was avoiding weren’t just discomfort.

They were the places that held the truth of who I was – the longings, the grief, the tenderness.

That night, I didn’t try to fix it.

I just let it be there – the feeling, the memory, the voice.


And I noticed something else:

A quiet sense of warmth.

A part of me had been waiting for this moment – not to be pushed or need to change, just to be met.


Sometimes, that’s what integration is.

Not a grand transformation. Not a lightning bolt. Sometimes very silent.

Just the willingness to stay present with something we used to run from.


What are you still avoiding?

You don’t need to name the biggest thing.

Just something subtle – a part of yourself, a topic, a truth, a feeling.

The thing you keep walking around without quite looking at.


There’s often a reason we avoid it.

Maybe it wasn’t safe to feel it, speak it, or be with it when we were younger.

But now – with a bit more capacity, a bit more support – we can try again.


Not to force anything.

Just to notice how near we can stay to that edge.

If you want to dive deeper into that topic: Read here the full article on my website


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Till next week
- Johannes


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Topic off the Month: Intimacy: The Courage to Be Close -

Week: What Intimacy Really Means (and Why We Fear It)

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